My writing group gathers every Sunday morning. Well, not quite a group of us. It’s normally two people with other characters joining the melee on days they wake up. If it’s a morning of just two, we eat, we discuss, and we write. When there are more, the conversational tangents run far and wide. They all relate to writing, or to what we are writing, but we have a tendency to fall deep into the rabbit hole of “what ifs” and “then there’s” as writers. One idea connects to another until the dots of light come together in an interesting constellation of thoughts.

It’s fascinating to sit back and find out where we will end up. A conversation about Anne Lamott takes us to the varying waves of divorce among midlife couples and on to the pain of revisions. [Note: I tied it together as stages of our writing. Writing late into life, surviving writer’s block, and learning to let go of it all.] We may get fifteen minutes of full pen to paper time on such occasions, but that’s okay. Sometimes you need the mental break. Your brain needs to wander amongst the words of others.

I get lost in my own head. There’s a lot up there to think about. One color change to the sky can alter every piece of minutia for the universe, and I need to figure it out. I need to put the puzzle pieces in place. So it’s good for me to spend time with others. It could also be why I have so many hobbies. There’s a drive to keep myself out of my own wonderland of thoughts. I put up the “Do Not Disturb” sign on my brain and do something real, including being around real people. I am very comfortable removing myself from the world at large and living in my own personal version of the galaxy. Solitary is easy for people like me. It’s the interaction that breaks us.

I recommend the challenge of tangents for breakfast. Don’t try to steer the conversation. Let it go. Glancing blows off the circle of your ideas can turn them in so many different directions. One such instance a few years back forced me to find my voice again. An insistent friend hinted until the idea was my own, driving me forward into the writing life. I can revel in my thoughts, finally putting my worlds on paper and sharing them with people who won’t judge me for red-skinned giants living in a golden-hued landscape. It might just be a statement about the evils of greed, but I won’t know until I get to breakfast.